A long life without a clear idea of himself left Lech in a personal and professional crisis at the age of 52, standing at a crossroads in virtually all key areas of his life.
The immediate impetus for working with a coach was the difficulty of choosing his future career path between three very different options. His daily life was spent struggling for existence and overcoming daily financial difficulties, as well as dealing with the stress this situation caused.
Challenges
Lech was completely consumed by the hardships of everyday life. At first they were the only thing he wanted to focus on. At first he was a bit impatient and didn’t understand why we were starting with topics that seemed too general to him.
Process
We began sorting out his world with a careful, collaborative review of his experiences, personal strategies and psychology in areas not directly affecting his daily struggles, but nevertheless critical to their outcome: clarity, energy, courage, productivity, relationships with others and, finally, a sense of meaning and purpose in life.
The desperation with which Lech embarked on his work with the coach gave him tremendous strength and readiness to face his true self-image, which he had never actually sought before. Thanks to this, he soon began to discover that the self-image he had assiduously maintained for years in front of himself and others was not only incomplete, but condemned him to devote enormous energy to maintaining appearances, while depriving others of their often above-average qualities.
Meanwhile, the real Lech turned out to have resources and qualities that the previous one did not see at all. It turned out that the reality of his personality and character was much richer than what he had tried for years to paint in front of himself and others. Seeing this, in turn, opened the way to truly knowing and accepting himself. It went further easily: Lech put his life and personal relationships in order, chose – this time without further doubts – his professional path, and embarked on the path of creating himself and his own life with joy and curiosity for each new day.
The process took about a year.
Lech’s Story
Christopher was recommended to me by a friend. I was 52 years old at the time and found myself in a very difficult situation professionally, personally and financially. I felt that if I did not radically change my life, it would end tragically. I was looking for someone who would make an effort to understand the complicated circumstances I was in, take me seriously and guide me through some kind of change, at the time I thought it would be a professional change.
Christopher read carefully the long description of my life story before the first meeting and remembered everything. He talked to me as if he had known me for years. With humble confidence, he declared that he was the right person to help me. That was enough for me.
In the first sessions, I was very nervous and focused on finding answers in a space outside of me. I asked Christopher how quickly he would lead to a discernment of a key issue for me, namely my professional life. He calmly replied: first you need to get your life in order. I didn’t fully understand this at the time, but I trusted him.
From session to session the clouds and fog shrouding my life began to clear. We followed a very well thought out coaching program. Christopher posed the right questions, but also boldly interpreted my answers. He listened very carefully, and at the end drew out the essence of me in a few succinct points. The culmination of each session was a homework assignment. My eyes began to open, very wide.
It was a very substantive work, based on scientific developments in human behavior and attitudes. At its core is the High Performance Coaching program, but authoritatively expanded by Christopher and continually supplemented by his extensive knowledge of psychology, neuropsychology,
business and many other fields. The factor that seems to have been most important to our success is Christopher’s unique personality, which he himself has been consciously shaping for years. Beating from him is his inexhaustible energy and positive thinking and calmness. All of this caused me to feel joy and an influx of positive energy after each session, and made real breakthroughs about myself, my life, as well as the behavioral patterns that led me to where I once was. The answers began to come on their own.
The power of this cooperation is so great that a state of euphoria not only appears after each session, but persists between meetings. In my case, they were held every month, and sometimes even less frequently. More than once, somewhere between sessions, after a very intense day, I would write a message to Christopher: “I can feel everything bubbling up inside me. It’s like the buzzing of the yeast working in a vat of wine, heralding an excellent vintage. I can feel it carrying me in the right direction.” Here, I usually described very specific life discoveries or thoughts initiated in sessions that gradually formed in my mind.
I discovered and accepted myself. I realized that all the answers to my happiness, professional and personal path are within me, not in the outside world. I discovered most of these answers, and certainly the key ones for today. As a result, I know what to do and I do it. I have experienced real “miracles.” Things that I would never have thought could happen before, and they only happened because I understood the power of conscious thoughts, that I opened up to myself, to people and
thanks to Christopher I started to lead MY conscious life. And today I already know that I will not deviate from this path!
Lech Borek
